HELD
a grief support card deck — fifty-two small companions for the heaviest days
Tap any card to enter its room — the idea behind it, and the people sitting with it right now.
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Buy now — $28.99GROUND · IYou don't have to face the whole day. Ten minutes is a real unit of time.GROUND · IIGrief often lands in the body first — a tight chest, tired bones, no appetite. That's the bo…GROUND · IIIAn invitation: a glass of water, slowly. Not a fix. Just proof the body is still being tende…GROUND · IVYou're allowed to step outside for one minute and let the sky be enough company.GROUND · VHowever many days this has been, you have made it through all of them. That record is yours.GROUND · VIYou don't have to eat well. You're allowed to eat small, boring, and enough. Grief burns fue…GROUND · VIIIf sleep won't come, rest still counts. Lying in the dark, breathing, is not failing at rest…GROUND · VIIIAn invitation: one hand on your chest, three slow breaths. A way to find yourself when the d…GROUND · IXYou're allowed to let something be easy today. Paper plates. Unwashed hair. A lower bar is s…GROUND · XWhen a wave hits, you can plant your feet and name five things you can see. Waves crest and …GROUND · XIYou don't owe today anything but water, food, and rest. The rest of the list can wait.GROUND · XIIThe world can feel unreal when your world has changed. You're allowed to move slowly and tou…GROUND · XIIIYou don't have to hold it together for anyone in this room right now. You can just be in it.FEEL · IYou don't have to be strong. You're allowed to be honest instead — they're different jobs.FEEL · IIThere is no correct way to do this. However you're grieving is a way of grieving.FEEL · IIIGrief can hold opposite things at once. Missing and anger, love and relief, can share the sa…FEEL · IVYou're allowed to laugh. Joy and grief can live in the same house without betraying each oth…FEEL · VYou're allowed to cry wherever it finds you — the car, the shower, the aisle. There's no wro…FEEL · VINumbness is not failure. Sometimes the mind doses reality out slowly to keep the whole house…FEEL · VII'Fine' is a complete answer to a stranger. You owe no one a performance — of grief or of rec…FEEL · VIIISome days may be unexpectedly okay. You're allowed to take them. They aren't disloyalty.FEEL · IXAnger is allowed a place here — at the illness, the world, the unfairness, whatever it lands…FEEL · XIf 'I should have' is on a loop, consider: you decided with the love and the information you…FEEL · XIA hard day after a good one isn't a relapse. Grief moves like a tide, not a staircase.FEEL · XIIYou will not always feel exactly as you do right now — not because it fades, but because lif…FEEL · XIIIWhatever feeling showed up with this card, it's allowed to be here. You don't have to justif…REMEMBER · IYou're allowed to say their name out loud today. It still belongs in the world.REMEMBER · IIAn invitation: tell one story — to a person, a pet, or an empty room. Telling keeps the door…REMEMBER · IIIIf it was complicated, the grief is allowed to be complicated too. You can mourn what was an…REMEMBER · IVAn invitation: write down something they missed today. Keep it, burn it, or tuck it in a dra…REMEMBER · VYou're allowed to keep it, wear it, carry it. Objects are allowed to be sacred.REMEMBER · VIThe exact sound of a voice can fade while the feeling of it stays. Both count as remembering…REMEMBER · VIIAn invitation: play the song. Even if it wrecks you — sometimes especially then.REMEMBER · VIIIA bond doesn't end when it goes quiet on one side. You're allowed to still be in it.REMEMBER · IXYou're allowed to mark the hard dates, or ignore them entirely. The calendar answers to you …REMEMBER · XThey were more than how it ended. You're allowed to remember the long middle.REMEMBER · XIAn invitation: ask someone who knew them for a story you've never heard. Others are holding …REMEMBER · XIIGrief is often love that outlived its destination. When it aches, that's the love, still arr…REMEMBER · XIIIYou're allowed to remember them imperfectly. The whole person, not only the good or only the…TEND · IAn invitation: text one person the words 'today is hard.' No explanation required.TEND · IIYou're allowed to let people help badly. The casserole may be wrong; the care in it isn't.TEND · IIIYou're allowed to leave early, cancel, or not go at all. Your energy is yours to spend right…TEND · IVWhen someone asks what you need and your mind goes blank, 'sit with me' and 'distract me' ar…TEND · VYou're allowed to mute, unfollow, and decline. Protecting a raw place is not rudeness.TEND · VIAn invitation: do one small thing for tomorrow's you — fill the tank, set out clothes, charg…TEND · VIIIf the heaviness stays very heavy for very long, reaching for help — a friend, a group, a co…TEND · VIIIYou're allowed to say no to something this week. Grief needs the room.TEND · IXIf there's a person you never have to perform for, you're allowed to lean there without apol…TEND · XAn invitation: reach for warmth — tea, a blanket, bathwater, sunlight. Comfort is a tool rig…TEND · XISome help has to be asked for out loud. The people who love you may be waiting to be told ho…TEND · XIIYou're allowed the same patience you'd give someone else in your place. That standard applie…TEND · XIIICaring for yourself right now is not moving on and not forgetting. It's how a grieving perso…
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